1st Bokeh Experiment: HELP ME!!!!

Okay little by little I've been trying to branch out and learn more about using my camera. I have gotten better about taking pictures without having to use the flash but not always. I also have issues a lot of times with my subjects being quite shadowy but I guess it is all in the fun of learning! Tonight I decided to experiment with bokeh.



I love how a lot of these came out. However when I try to focus on an image in front of the lights I either focus on the object and then loose the blurriness of my hearts OR the image in front is blurry?


I'm not sure if I cut the heart too large or if I'm not using the right settings. I've got the aperture set on 3.5 and the ISO at 200. I'm highly grateful for any and all suggestions :) I'll keep playing I have a lot of fun just changing the settings and playing around. I get really excited when I actually figure out something that works.